I will never forget that feeling of being a first-time mom—then a second-time mom—and that overwhelming sense that nothing is going right. The baby didn’t sleep, you’re exhausted, the toddler got up way too early and now has a runny nose, the dishwasher is full, and the laundry is piling up. The list feels endless, and today just feels like too much.
I get it, mama. We’ve all been there. Sometimes, it feels impossible to get out of the mind race that everything is falling apart. But here’s the thing—you can hit reset. You deserve a fresh start, and it doesn’t have to be complicated.
Here are five simple ways to turn your day around and get yourself back on track for a more positive, happy day ahead.
1. Take a Deep Breath (Seriously, Right Now!)
When overwhelm sets in, your body shifts into fight or flight mode, making it even harder to think clearly. Stop for a second, place your hand on your heart, and take three slow, deep breaths. Inhale through your nose, hold for a moment, and exhale slowly through your mouth. It sounds simple, but it’s a game-changer for calming your nervous system and giving you a second to pause before reacting.
2. Do a 5-Minute Reset
Instead of looking at everything that needs to be done, choose one small thing you can accomplish in five minutes. It could be making the bed, starting the dishwasher, or putting away three pieces of laundry. A quick win gives you momentum and signals to your brain that things are getting back on track.
Bonus tip: Put on your favorite playlist while you do it. Music has a magical way of shifting the energy in your home and in your mind.
3. Get Outside (Even for Just 2 Minutes!)
Fresh air works wonders for shifting your mood. Step outside, take a deep breath, feel the sunshine on your face, or just look at the sky for a moment. If the baby is fussy, bring them along for a quick walk or just sit on the porch. A tiny change of scenery can help break that cycle of stress.
4. Say "Yes" to Help (Or Make It Easier on Yourself!)
You don’t have to do it all alone. If someone offers help, say yes. If no one has offered, don’t be afraid to ask (or delegate). Can your partner start a load of laundry? Can you order groceries instead of running out? If the baby won’t nap unless held, can you cozy up on the couch instead of stressing over it? Give yourself permission to let go of perfection and accept help when it’s available.
5. Speak Kindly to Yourself
If your best friend were struggling, you wouldn’t tell her she’s failing—you’d tell her she’s doing an amazing job. Give yourself that same kindness. Even if today is messy and chaotic, you are not failing. You are a wonderful, loving mom, and your baby thinks you are perfect just the way you are.
If nothing else, remember this: This hard moment is just a moment. It won’t last forever. You are doing so much better than you think.
So, take a deep breath, reset, and keep going, mama. You’ve got this.