Dear New Mom,
You’re holding this tiny human in your arms and suddenly the world feels both incredibly small and wildly overwhelming. You’re in awe, in love, and… if we’re being honest, maybe a little bit lost too.
Let me start by saying something no one said to me, but I wish they had:
It’s okay to miss who you were.
You can love your baby with your whole heart and still grieve the version of yourself that had freedom, space, and clarity. You can be deeply grateful for this season and still feel overwhelmed, emotional, and uncertain. Missing yourself doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong, it means you’re human. It means you're adjusting. It means you're becoming.
There’s a quiet identity shift that happens in postpartum. One day you wake up and everything has changed, but somehow you’re expected to carry on like nothing did. And when you finally get a second to breathe, the question sneaks in: “Will I ever feel like me again?”
Here’s the truth:
You won’t go back to who you were.
But that’s not a loss. It’s a becoming.
And you are becoming someone stronger, wiser, and more powerful than you’ve ever been.
You’re evolving into a new version of yourself, a version that feels deeply, loves harder, and shows up in ways you didn’t even know you could. But that doesn’t mean the “old you” didn’t matter. She paved the way for the woman you are now. And missing her? That’s part of the process. That’s human.
So please don’t let guilt creep in when you think about the freedom, the confidence, or even the body you once had. Missing those pieces doesn’t mean you love your baby any less. It just means you’re in the messy, beautiful middle of redefining you, and that deserves so much grace.
Postpartum is a beautiful, messy transformation. And while the world focuses on the baby (as they should), it’s just as important to stay connected to you.
That’s why we created our journal. It’s not just a baby tracker, though we know it helps to jot down feedings and sleep when your brain is running on 2 hours of sleep and coffee only. It’s also a space for you, with gentle prompts designed to help you check in with how you’re feeling, what you miss, what you’re proud of, and who you’re becoming and who you want to be in this new season of life.
Because taking a moment to reflect, even for just a few minutes a day, is a way to say:
“Hey, I see you. You still matter.”
This journal was made for the nights when your identity feels blurry, for the days when you’re holding it all together, and for the quiet moments when you just need to breathe and remember that you’re still in there. It’s your space. Your pause. Your time to care for yourself while you care for your baby.
At Le Lolo, we believe in honoring every version of you: the before, the during, the after. Our products are made not just to support your body, but to remind you that you are still you. Beautiful. Strong. Worthy. And deserving of self-love and care, especially now.
So from one mom to another:
Take your time. Feel all the feels.
And know that you're not alone in missing who you were, while slowly learning to love who you’re becoming.
With love,
Courtney
Written by Courtney Boylan | Mom of 3 | Founder of Le Lolo
